The first two words to the phrase "I see" are the equivilent to "I understand".
The beauty of this phrase is that "it" can refer to just about anything, and is vague enough to seem as if you have misinterpereted the meaning behind what was just said in more exaggerated terms that have offended you much more than what was intended. It can be used to express that you are insulted or that you feel exluded or to pursuade someone into taking back a rejection or reconsider turning down an offer. "I see how it is" is sometimes followed by reasonings as to how "it" (whatever "it" may be) is how it is. It is a creative twist to the phrase "Don't be like that" or "don't be hate'n".
"I see how it is" can also refer to a relationship, and is a shortened version of "I see how it is between us". This use is usually meant to sarcastically tell another person that you are enlightened by how the relationship has changed for the worst (sometimes by simply what was just said) or how you have come to an understanding about the person having ulterior motives in the relationship or that to your suprise you discovered through what they just said that they dislike something about you. This can all be included in the reasoning stage after the phrase "I see how it is" is said.
If the person tries to appologize, the phrase "Oh, I see how it is" can be used to interrupt the person before their explanation is finished. Using the phrase in this way cane make it seem as if you are even more insulted, as opposed to leaving a breif silence before "I see how it is" is said. The phrase "I don't want to hear it" can be used even before the reasoning stage (in which "it" is refferring to their appologetic explanation for whatever they just said).
The phrase "I see how it is" almost demands immediate action to be taken or changes to be made in your favor to make up for what was just said.
Sue: "Sorry John, but you can't come to my house for dinner tonight. We're having company over and my parents made other plans....."
John: "Oh, OH.. I see... I see how it is!!! I don't want to hear it, Sue. Its just 'cause I'm fat and you're too embarassed to show me off to your family. You think I'll eat everything off the table, but you know what Sue? I'm not the kind of person that would do that. I was taught good manners too you know. I can be a gentleman. I can't believe you think that I'm some sort of slob... Thats not cool, Sue. Not cool at all. Right through the heart... I thought you liked my fat belly. You said it turned you on. And now you expect me to loose weight? Is that it? Like, if you wanted me to do something about my weight you could've just come right out and told me. I know I'm fat. But I never thought it was a problem for you. Why did you lie to me like that?
Joe: Hey Tom, do you want a chip?
Tom: Sure, thanks.
Chris: Oh, you're not gonna offer me one? I see how it is.... its 'cause I'm black isn't it...
For example you started to see things even more clearly and work out in advance what the bullshit kind of people are planning."I see how it is"
For example you dont say anything but a relationship for someone who you been therefore when times get hard they disappear such as fairweather friends."I see how it is"
or just in general whenever sarcastically or in a situation where u feel like you have have either let down or u clocked on and they think u dont know anything. "I see how it is"
"I see how it is" is also used in very complicated situations where you think you have worked it out.
It can and is often used sarcastically between friends or as a joke way.
It is often also a word to say how a relationship has broke down or trust or most likely loyalty to one another.
"I see how it is" is also used when someone thinks you don't know something but you don't want to say so you hint it to them
Another example Mick and Mack are close friends in a bar, they see two very attractive girl looking at them and get signals from her and Mick is sure she is looking at him.Mick says to Mack, She looks good and I think, I am going to go chat to her. Mick pops to to the toilet. When Mick gets back Mack has already driven her away by telling her some bad jokes about Mick. Mick tells Mack and Mack laughs and says well thanks for messing it up for me lol. I see how it is.
For example between family, friends or relationships where trust or loyalty is broken down, the person who feels let down says "I see how it is"
It can be said in a jokey sarcastic way between people and doesn't have necessarily have to be a serious situation.
Or when someone doesn't understand the situation of someone and only think one way. The other person sees they wasted their time and sees that the other person is very cleverly sneaky in their ways to obtain something they want regardless of the outcome for you whether it be catastrophic for you when you realize he is not what he seems and acts under false pretenses.
Also when someone thinks you owe them something or need to prove something to them when the truth is it not the case but they just want to control or put you down.
And lastly people who ask to many questions personally or obtain information when they don't even know you only for the purpose for something more sinister even when there is nothing or no real reason.