to be compassionate, kind, etc. in order to manipulate
someone else, often for the purpose of exploiting or swindling him or her. A form of deception common in romantic relationships and business
deals. A slowhandler
is different from a golddigger
primarily because slowhandlers are pursuing very specific
goals, whereas golddiggers are after whatever they can get their hands on. Additionally, slowhandlers are usually more subtle
and are not restricted
to being female.
"What the hell? She left you? You guys have been going out for two years!"
"I know! Turns out she was just slowhandling me to move up the corporate
"I was only
there for the free toaster, but that
guy slowhandled me into buying a timeshare! Damn, he's one hell of a salesman."